We all the know the Golden Rule, “Treat others the way you would like to be treated.” What if this is the wrong way to treat others? The Platinum Rule is “Treat others the way they want to be treated.” This is a much more effective way of treating others. It also shows that you do truly care about the other individual. At the end of the day, we all just want to feel accepted and cared for. We need to be cognizant of the effect of our actions. We influence others without even realizing it. I’m not saying that you need to have an agenda when interacting with others, but you should definitely be aware of your words and actions. It’s time that we take an assessment of our relationships!
Children are especially easy to influence. They are sponges for information! We need to nurture them with the things that will make them successful. As we grow up, we’re all asked, “What do you want to do when you grow up?” This is a question that is often met with a lot of confusion. I recommend asking, “What do you want your life to look like?” This question allows us to see the full end goal. From there, we can reverse engineer their answer to best prepare them to get there. That question also supports dreaming, visualization, and goal setting. We need to be very intentional with how we interact with others.
At what age do we stop encouraging their dreams and start killing them? It’s funny how an 8-year-old is told that they can do anything they set their mind to, but a 16-year-old is told that “they need to be realistic.” I will never shoot down the dreams of my children because I truly do believe that anything is possible! It’s important to think before you speak. Every action has a reaction. What kind of reactions will come about due to your actions?
A friend of mine bought a lot of very nice things for his girlfriend. He was super excited about it! When he gave them to her, she wasn’t as excited as he thought she was going to be. He felt hurt and she felt like she wasn’t appreciated. It took him a lot of time and money to figure out that receiving gifts wasn’t her version of feeling loved and appreciated. She wanted his attention and time, but he wanted to give her gifts. They both loved each other a lot, but they weren’t loving each other in the way that they both wanted to be loved. This concept comes from Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. We have to be aware of how others want to be treated, not how we want to be treated. By following the Golden Rule, we can actually unintentionally mistreat others. Follow the Platinum Rule and I can guarantee you’ll see a difference in your relationships with others.