I’ve come to realize that I’m not as much of an introvert as I thought. After a deep conversation with my mastermind group, my friend Austin McCulloh suggested something that made a lot of sense to me. He suggested that I don’t like small talk. When he said that, it explained so much for me! It explains why I’m an “introvert”, it explains why I don’t like going up to people and starting conversations. If I could, I’d skip past all the small talk and get into the meat of the conversation every time. To me, small talk is unimportant in the grand scheme of things. It’s extremely important in building relationships, but to me, it’s kind of a waste of time. Small talk is boring. People wear masks. If I asked 10 people, “How are you?”, I’ll probably get 7 goods, 2 greats, and 1 fantastic. I truly do care about others, but I want to focus on the things that actually matter rather than the fluff of the conversation. I want people to tell me the truth! I want people to tell me what really matters and how they really feel! Small talk is important for removing that mask though. I recognize that I need to get better at it. Making small talk is incredibly uncomfortable for me though. The only way I will get better at it is by doing it. When I was in Omaha, it was easier for me to talk to people because I knew we already had something in common.
My friend JD, who I just had on my podcast, shared with me how he makes better small talk. He asks open-ended questions. This requires others to actually respond to you with something other than a sentence answer. JD is also incredibly observant. He can read people and pick out things to talk about. Watching him talk with others is incredible! One day, by putting in the time and effort, I will be on his level(and hopefully better!) of human to human interaction. I’ve learned so much from JD!